Why do some guys sound feminine

Gender

Gender stereotypes strongly influence our judgments of individuals. While most of the stereotypes come across rather silly, and we fully back your right to reject and/or subvert them, you should understand the social consequences of those decisions. A dude who is perceived as “not masculine enough” may as a result also be perceived as gay, weak, insecure or afraid, not taken seriously or respected. A female who is perceived as “not feminine enough” may as a result also be perceived as lesbian, rude, cold, aggressive, pushy and/or “bitchy.” It is also possible, of course, for a man to be deemed “too macho” or a female “too girly,” in which case neither one is taken very seriously. Please note that we are not talking about biological sex here, but about the culture-specific and dynamic ways that we perform gender, turning up or down the dial as needed.

While the bulk of this module assumes traditional gender identity and heterosexuality for simplicity’s sake, remember that the exact matching social signals are recycled (played with and played against) to signal other (“non-traditional”) gender and sexual identities.

Gender is not a plain, binary distinc

Why do some gay men “sound” gay? After three years of research, linguistics professors Henry Rogers and Ron Smyth may be on the verge of answering that question. After identifying phonetic characteristics that seem to produce a man’s voice sound queer, their best hunch is that some gay men may subconsciously adopt certain female speech patterns. They want to know how men acquire this manner of speaking, and why – especially when society so often stigmatizes those with gay-sounding voices.

Rogers and Smyth are also exploring the stereotypes that gay men sound effeminate and are recognized by the way they speak. They asked people to listen to recordings of 25 men, 17 of them gay. In 62 per cent of the cases the listeners identified the sexual orientation of the speakers correctly. Perhaps fewer than half of gay men sound gay, says Rogers.

The straightest-sounding voice in the study was in fact a gay man, and the sixth gayest-sounding voice was a linear man.

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I recently started dating again and have just recently been confronted by a situation that’s left me scratching my head. I have met two men who would like to date me, and they both are great! And, they both sound completely gay—like, out-of-the-closet, effeminate-speech same-sex attracted. This is kind of a libido killer for me, and it makes my brain spin. I am not proud of my response, which is to not want to go out with them again. I can’t even tell if I sound homophobic here, but is it homophobi

Heterosexual males with childish/feminine voices?

monty wrote:

But there are some things related to stereotypical gender roles I didn't fetch for a lengthy time after everyone else. Enough to earn some wrath from the self-appointed gender identity police.

Oh, I still receive into arguments with people about that stuff. I just don't getwhy people are so attached to gender roles, they don't come across sensible to me, people should be able to perform what they desire to do, regardless of sex. I've always been more attracted to the traditionally female roles, had mostly female friends through institution and university (now I've moved to the US from the UK, gender roles seem more firmly ingrained in the culture and that's ended, but here I feel to have less friends in general so it may simply not be a big enough sample group) and that doesn't threaten my sense of maleness in the slightest, but it doesannoy the crap out of me whe