Tips for first time gay sex

The ins and outs of safer, greater sex.

I’m scared of bottoming

Most gay men will examine bottoming at some period. However, the thought of doing it for the first time can be scary. Don’t let that put you off.

You may prefer to douche before bottoming, especially if indulging in deep arse compete like fisting or with large dicks/toys. Use plain, clean water, preferably at body temperature. Avoid using shower attachments - the water pressure can be dangerous. You can obtain douche bulbs online or from any good sex shop. Try not to go overboard and irritate the lining of your arse, as this can make you more vulnerable to STIs.

Get yourself relaxed with lots of foreplay like rimming or fingering. Some men do operate amyl nitrate (poppers) to relax the muscles around their arse but there are two major health warnings. Poppers:

have been linked with an increased peril of HIV transmission
don’t mix with erection drugs enjoy Viagra and may lead to a heart attack.

Deep breathing is far safer, helps you to relax and relaxes the arse too.

Find a position that suits the size, angle and curvature of your partner’s dick. Any position where your knees are bent and drawn into your chest, w

Tips for cis men who want to try sex with other cis men – in a safe and respectful way

To begin, I’d prefer to clarify that this article is not necessarily about questioning your sexuality. Everyone should be able to scout their curiosities in a pleasurable and positive way, and it’s important to understand that you can try fresh things without subscribing to any fixed labels. These tips are for cis men who desire to try sex with other cis men, in a safe and respectful manner.

Note: ‘cisgender men’ or ‘cis men’ refers to men who were assigned male at birth, based on having a penis and other biological characteristics, and identify as men too.Cis is the opposite of trans. We debate trans men morehere, andhere’s some help and advice about navigating sex and relationshipsfor trans men and trans masculine people.

1. Be sincere from the get-go that you’re curious

Whether you want to hook up with someone you’re already acquainted with (usually a gym bro, according to most porn), or you’ve been involved in a charged emoji swap on Grindr, honesty is fundamental from the beginning. Many queer people are empathetic

My(35M) first gay sexual experience is coming up. What should I know?
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I am a 35 year mature cis man, and I have been only with women my whole animation. Suddenly I discover myself being attracted to men, and my first queer sexual experience is coming up! I feel like a teenager again :) How should I prep for this?

Hello. I am a 35 year old cis male, and I've been only with women up to now. I've always considered myself enthusiastically hetero.

A year or so ago, I first experienced the pleasure of anal sex (i.e. having my butt being played with, penetrated with a finger etc) with my female partners.

Since then, I have been fantasising strongly about being penetrated by a real penis. I've begun experiencing some attraction towards men, and (for the first time) been aroused by gay porn. I really want to be fucked by a guy!

So long story limited, I've met a kind, gentle same-sex attracted man who knows about this history of mine and is interested in being my significant other in this adventure. The big morning is coming up soon. I'm really excited but really nervous! I comprehend I should aim to be spontaneous but I contain so many questions! What are things I should be ke

Are you planning on being a bottom for the first day but worried about being getting fucked? From douching to diet, these 11 butt-bangin' tips from Alex Hopkins will show you how to prepare for anal sex. Lube at the ready!

Anal sex is a rite of route for gay men. But getting your precious passage primed if you're a first-time bottom can be anxiety-inducing. Not least of all because many of us are still not taught about anal sex in school.

Consequently, we often have to learn about how to have anal sex and bottoming in roundabout ways. Through what we hear. Or porn. And, many times, on the job itself.

First time bottom: the rookie mistakes

Impassioned but ill-prepared, when it comes to first-time bottoming, newbies naturally form mistakes. If we are feeling mega horny, we may experiment and take a cock too instantly. With too little lube. And perhaps too little attention to cleaning our nether regions.